Arguing in dreams is usually about pent-up emotions that you don’t get to express in real life. The reason why these things spill over into your dreams is because they demand expression in your waking life, but you probably haven’t found the right time, approach, and even the courage to confront the person.
You may have a very meek and non-confrontational personality, but the issue at hand may be bothering you more than you expected.
It is important to be able to process these emotions and settle with yourself what you plan to do regarding the dreams you have been having, in order to avoid having these dreams over and over.
You would want your dreams to actually help you relax and help you feel like your stress was regulated.
But dreams about arguments may let you wake up into the opposite emotions – feeling unsettled or even anxious about what you just dreamt about.
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Meaning of Dreams about Arguing with Family
We often argue with people – more often with those people who are close to us than those who aren’t – this is a fact of life. Our family may be the closest people to us, and it is quite normal to have a lot of disagreements with them.
This is an inevitable part of life – the more intimate your relationship, the more your imperfections are exposed to one another and more frequently at that.
It is vital to foster good communication lines with one another in order to keep constructive feedback going, and so we get pointers for improvement in a way that will help us better ourselves.
But if we are arguing with family members in our dreams, that may mean that we are not keeping communication lines as open as they should.
This is an indication that there are some ill feelings towards that family member that we are not able to express in real life. This spilling over to our dreams means that something is still bothering us.
What to do if you are dreaming of arguing with family members
The best thing to do if you are dreaming of arguing with family members is to do the following:
Try to remember what you were angry about in the dream, if you can.
It is a good practice to actually try to remember what you dreamt about the night before, every morning when you wake up.
This helps you strengthen your memory and process pent up emotions that you may not be giving awareness in your waking life.
Once you remember, try to assess what that emotion is about.
If you do remember what you were arguing about, check yourself for what the prevalent emotion you were carrying was.
Were you angry about something that that person did? Were you just shouting but couldn’t really pinpoint what the reason is? Was there sadness, regret, self-pity, blame? What was the emotion?
Pinpointing what exactly you felt will help illuminate the unresolved feelings you have inside of you.
It is even possible that you don’t have an issue with that particular family member – but he/she may represent something or someone else that is giving you anxiety or distress in your waking life.
Check what the best course of action is to deal with that unsettled emotion.
Once you have been able to identify the cause for your anger, distress, or anxiety, you can then figure out what you can do in order to be more constructive about that particular emotion.
Is there a person you can talk to – someone who is causing the negative emotion to stir up inside you?
Maybe a family member has said something hurtful, and you felt the repercussions of that comment long after it has been uttered.
You may not have had the chance to tell them that what they said has affected you negatively, because it took you some time to absorb what that meant for you.
This may be the best time to go to that person, tell him/her how that comment made you feel, and try to patch things up.
If the emotion was not triggered by a particular person, but more of a situation that you are currently in, it may be wise to assess what exactly you can do in order to help yourself and not feel the anxiety or worry that that situation is helping to induce in you.
It is good to be able to be as self-aware as possible, and have a checklist of what is really under your control to change in the situation, and what lies outside of that. When this acceptance comes, you may be able to find the peace that you need.
Dreaming about arguing with parents – interpretation
Sometimes, you may be arguing with a particular family member. If you happened to dream about arguing with your parents, this may represent an authority figure in your life that may not necessarily be them, but who is giving you a hard time lately.
You may feel like you don’t have any control in your situation with that person, or he/she may be making you feel like their authority is far superior to your stand. This may be what is causing anxiety in you.
Dreaming about arguing with your parents could also be related to your character as a person.
Maybe there is something from your childhood that is resurfacing – something that you haven’t dealt with as constructively it probably should have been.
It may be time to reassess these parts of you that you haven’t revisited for a while, and deal with the anxieties in a more helpful way.
Dreaming About Arguing with your partner
If you are dreaming about arguing with your partner, it may be about a certain engagement at work or in your life that you are not happy about.
You may have felt forced into the agreement, and now, it is causing you a lot of anxiety to keep working on something you don’t believe in.
It may also mean that you really have some unresolved emotions towards your partner, something that you haven’t dealt with in your waking life.
They may be doing something you are peeved about, but you haven’t had the chance to bring it up to them because of your busyness, or because there seemed to have been many other more important concerns. But dreaming about these things means that it may really be causing you strife.
It would be good to come clean to your partner and let them know what their attitude or certain action is making you feel in order for you to move on from just having dreams about your projected arguments with them.
Dreaming about arguing with you mother
The argument in your dream may be more specific. In one case, you may be arguing with your mother in your dream.
In your waking life, you find that you have no pent-up emotions against your mother, so you may be confused as to why you are arguing with her in your dream.
Your mother in your dream symbolizes your nurturing or more giving side. This may mean that you have been feeling something related to this in your waking life.
You may be doubting your ability to be able to nurture or take care of other people. You may be worrying about your competence in terms of being a mother to your own kids, and it is giving you anxiety if you can really do it.
This could also mean that you are already a nurturing person, but there is someone in your life who is taking advantage of your generosity and gentleness in this regard.
You may not be expressing anything to them in your waking life, but dreaming about arguing with your mother may be telling you that you are already unsettled with what they are doing.
This may be a sign to go ahead and confront that person, in a gentle way. You can just get to the bottom of their motivations by still being respectful and generous in the process.
The objective is to really be more settled with your situation, and to not let them bother you enough that you dream about arguments because of what they are doing.
The best course of action on dreams with arguments
The arguments in your dreams are symbolizing an emotion or a situation in your waking life that wants to get its attention to you.
It is a good reminder to be able to check yourself and see when you are feeling bothered or anxious in your waking life, whether it is regarding a specific situation, thing, or person.
You can then proceed to dealing with it in a constructive way. You can talk to the person who is causing you anxiety, or you can take steps in order to make the situation you are facing more favorable towards you or a better end.
All these attempts will help minimize the restlessness and the dreams about arguing, that may make you feel less rested when you wake up.
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